URT | ENCHANTED

Through communication, we are able to send and receive messages to and from other people and transmit information in actual fact. This will result to interacting with others and knowing how they exchange few words and ideas effectively and give feedbacks after such conversation in order for them to understand each other. As communication nowadays has many medium and many forms, there are also many theories that lie behind it that needs to be addressed. 

One of those theories is the Uncertainty Reduction Theory. URT avows that humans habitually undergo vagueness, hesitation or uncertainty with reference to people they are not familiar with, thus, they are goaded towards conversing or opening up a discussion in turn to lessen or trim down such uncertainties that they have. The originators of this theory are Professors Berger and Calabrese. They invented the theory in year 1975 to principally state the importance in improving our human relationships. Moreover, the theory comes about being puzzled on new-fangled connection with people in an effort to congregate knowledge regarding how they act in order to foretell their behavior (Uncertainty Reduction Theory). 

A good exemplar of this situation presented by the Uncertainty Reduction Theory is the story of the movie, “Enchanted” by Walt Disney in 2007. In the said movie, the fairy tale world collided with the present day to day circumstances in Manhattan, New York City. The main conflict of the story was how the two main characters overcome the obstacles and hurdles if they decide to start a newly found romantic relationship albeit being fully aware that they live differently. But because they have solved the worries, fears and the conflicts of communication they had with one another, they have eventually succeeded with achieving what their hearts really want to scribble out through talking and listening to each other.

Relating to URT, Princess Giselle and Robert try to shrink uncertainty stuck between them throughout their first unexpected meeting in the real world. The extent is tapered along the fact that strangers take necessary paces to be able presume on the behavior of the other person. When the two main characters of the movie intermingled, they do not know each other at first, then they began to observe one another by asking some questions and having small talks to be able to know how each other is behaving since they are living in two different worlds, the one in an animated fairy tale kingdom while the other one is living in the busy city of New York. 

Hence, Uncertainty can be classified both as what they perceive on one another and what will they do about that perception. Also, the characters implied the passive and active strategies of the URT. Robert was very passive in observing Giselle as if he doesn’t want other people to know that he really wants Giselle to stay with them and know more about her. On the contrary, Giselle was actively asking other person in the real world about Robert since she is very interested on him. She tried asking Robert’s daughter about him in order to know how she can be able to help him communicate smoothly.

Meanwhile, the story made the viewers see the difference between the two worlds which the character got into. The magical theme that the setting offered contributed a lot to the atmosphere. The main problem of the story was the eagerness and anxiousness of the main characters to know how they can be able to overcome vacillations even if they know that they can never be together. The guts of Giselle in facing the challenges and changes in her life the moment she got out of fairy tale kingdom mainly portrayed the good heart and brave spirit that she has that’s why she made a great stay there though she encountered conflicts which is expected. 

The central point of the story is to be patient and have a sense of social interaction and observing how people on earth behave. The idea that the author wants to convey is to not do things in a hurry and for the main characters, Giselle and Robert, to fight against uncertainties with regards to how they will be able to communicate well with one another if they have two different worlds to think of. They learned to first consider the communication barrier or gap between them and prevail over it before doing something and they became responsible enough for the consequences that occur.

True enough that the Uncertainty Reduction Theory contributed important points to the theories and aspects of communication and it has positioned communication in a fundamental situation. Furthermore, it endows mostly with a continuing discussion and discourse about the soundness of the uncertainty reduction theory in helping to solve some predicaments and setbacks on the area under discussion of relationship improvement and communication development (West & Turner). 

In addition, relationships of people are full of doubts because of so many issues including communication. From first meet up of two unfamiliar persons to having a close tie between them, they experience difficulties in expressing themselves because of hesitations in communicating with one another plus knowing how the other person behaves. Uncertainty Reduction Theory presupposes that escalating stages of uncertainty can formulate more communication problems (Reis & Sprecher).

Works Cited

Uncertainty Reduction Theory. communicationstudies.com. Communication Studies. Web. n.d.

< http://www.communicationstudies.com/communication-theories/uncertainty-reduction-theory>.

West, R. & Turner, L. “Chapter9: Introducing Communication Theory.” mheducation.com. 

Online Learning Center. Web. n.d.

<http://highered.mheducation.com/sites/0073135615/student_view0/chapter9/index.html>.

Reis, T. & Sprecher, S. “Encyclopedia of Human Relationships.” sage-ereference.com. 

SAGE Publications, Inc. April 17, 2009

< http://www.sage-ereference.com/view/humanrelationships/n546.xml>.

BOLA

Basketball game reminiscence; surreal moments, reel highlights, indeed. This was the sport every one of all ages has learned to love. Professional basketball in the Philippines has always been consistent in pooling a group of undoubtedly talented basketball players with the kind of character that make their co-players want to play with them, the opponents to play their hardest against them and the public to love them big time.

Here are some tips basketball wanna-be’s need to follow and surpass:

• Do what you are good at. It won’t hurt to try and try until you finally get the rhythm of the game. Secure the ball always.
• Work hard and keep hustling. If you wanted to stay on the court for a long period of time, you have to get your game going.
• It doesn't matter if you can shoot or dribble. Just play tough defense. You can miss a shot at any point in time, but you can never settle for a sloppy defense.
• Rebound. If you do it well, you'll rapidly increase your chances of maximizing your playing time. Rebound is not just a skill, it’s discipline as well.
• Make the extra pass. You will also find yourself getting more passes from your team mates as well, because they make out and be pleased about your unselfishness in the game.

draft | untitled

It’s awful to love someone you couldn’t have. Even if it mattered very much, uncertainties will always be there. For some things don’t just happen, especially when you’re too afraid to let them. Falling – there was no other word to describe it, but until when? For how long will it last? Nevertheless, you waited. Still, no one came. Why had you set it up this way? Albeit wanting to be pragmatic, you always end up fooling yourself with a dose of coyness.

First Cut is the Deepest

Bluer than blue. Sadder than sad. How long will I have to endure the throbbing you’ve caused me? It was so disheartening to know that I wasn’t enough, or should I say, you’d just gone enough of me. Perhaps, it was my fault in the first place. I was the one who pushed this through, not knowing that I was left fighting and skirmishing alone. You could have told me to go before starting this mess. You should have said no the very first time you had the chance to. Why did you have to leave me hanging in pain without trying to explain everything that happened? You made me believe in lies, you made me learn to love you and hate you at the same time. But nevertheless, you made me find out and discover my strengths and the lessons I have to deal with. After all, here’s to you for making me who I am now, for having me realize how blessed I am with all the people I am left with, for teaching me to pummel it down. And as one of my favorite songs speaks out, “I want you to know that I thank you, for everything that you put me through. Yes I know it sounds funny but thank you. Now, there’s nothing left for me to do but to walk away. Walk away from all this.” </3

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The changeover from being colleagues to being friends transpires gradually. It is indeed a step by step process. We get in touch to proffer familiarity by being gentle, considerate, supportive and affable to each other. We may be poles apart when it comes to our personality, attitudes and beliefs, but it really doesn’t matter as long as we know where to stand and how to appreciate everyone’s worth fairly. Well, most of the time, our co-workers turn out to be vital for our improvement and growth at work. The connection that we enclose with them for the purpose of our job function or any other things helps us to create that personal and professional attachment. Hence, expressing gratitude is quite indispensable. Thank you! Kudos to all of us!

with LOVE, Daar :')

TWIMC

It took a while until you accidentally came. It shouldn’t have mattered, but still, it seems like you’re never there. We both know that it’s not gonna work out in the first place. Atleast we tried. Atleast, we both got inspired. But at the back of my mind, I’m still hoping for the ‘what ifs’, I’m still having this make-believe that somehow, we really deserve each other.

So now, I can only say thank you, sorry, good luck and good bye. Thanks for your time! I just want you to know that I’ll always be thankful that you spent your time just to make me happy even for a short time. I don’t really care if this was all temporary. I’m just here, I’ll always be here. You were the only person who’d ever made me feel loved, and suddenly you took me for granted. I know that most of the time, it was actually my fault. Sorry for being so clingy. Sorry if you always get irritated because of me. Sorry because this is how I’ll always be. I know that by reading this, you’ll say that I always say sorry for no reason. I couldn’t stop blaming myself for being so attached. You know I tried too hard, but it’s just that it’s all I know I have. Well, I wish you good luck. I hope you’ll be happy and successful in your life, even if I will not be a part of it anymore.  But just now, as I listen to sad songs, it seemed like yesterday. Tears strung my eyes and peaked down my face as I sat here waiting, trying to be strong alone. I really don’t want to say good bye, but I know I have to. There’s no ‘Us’ even from the start and there will be no ‘Us’ at the end of this ride. I won’t say good bye just to let go and forget you. But nonetheless, I’ll bid good bye hoping you’ll realize that I am worth the fight. -Daar

by: MISS TAKEN FOR GRANTED

"It hurts when the person that made you feel special yesterday, makes you feel unwanted today."

More often than not, it’s all about the small things that you think won't matter. If you want to keep someone important around you, you should always make her feel it. If there’s anything a woman extremely dislikes, it’s being taken for granted. It should also feel so effortless if you really think that she rightfully deserves your attention.

We, women would always yearn for appreciation. We don’t like going against people we covet to make an impact on or to win them over. We habitually have room for whatever thing you say, and we will do everything we can just to please you in the anticipation of winning your affection. Hearing a small line of compliments from you would mean the world to us.

Moreover, we usually give more than we typically get back. We just don’t know when to stop giving and we can’t help it. That’s why we always end up giving way too much before we even become conscious about it. And by then, it’s perhaps too late for the reason that the person we’re giving it to, may already be taking us for granted. We consequently can’t say ‘NO’ when it comes to the people we truly treasure and love. We have an awfully stiff time waning something to people. We’d rather take risk than decline. You may think we’re just being sweet, caring and too clingy sometimes, but we love genuinely, and that’s a fact.

        But like every other beings, we also get tired of this long-lived dilemma. We usually strive hard in order for us to overcome this feeling of being unnoticed and unappreciated by the people whom we really want to be a part of our lives. So if ever you realize that you have taken us for granted, always remember that you are always free to make it work the way we wanted it to be. And without a doubt, we’re just a text or a phone call away.